Today’s topic: First Time Jitters: Leaving your Baby in the Care of Someone Else
The first time I left my son was to go to shopping with my mom and grandmother for a few tops that weren’t maternity clothing. He was 6 weeks old. I wasn’t nervous at all with leaving my son with Don and my dad. UNTIL I was in the dressing room and decided to call Don’s phone – no answer. I tried again – no answer. I felt like I was going to be sick!!!! Finally he answered and I could hear my poor baby screaming in the background. Of course, I busted a leak on both sides- thank you hormones! I hustled my grandmother and mother into the car and drove the mile back to our house. The first sound to reach my ears upon my return was my baby boy wailing at the top of his lungs! My father was hiding in the kitchen with tears in his eyes and Don was rocking our son who would have nothing to do with the bottle. He had taken half of the bottle and that was it. It took me a good hour of nursing and rocking to get him settled back down! We didn’t know at the time was that he was intolerant to all of the dairy that I was eating.
To this day, when I consider leaving my nursing boy behind, I see spilled milk, refusal of sippy cup, screaming baby, diapers strewn about, and a stressed dad amidst the chaos. Yes, that’s what I think about every time I consider leaving my nursing baby. My fears, first experience, and having to pump are the reasons that at 7 & 1/2 months, my baby boy has been without me a grand total of FOUR hours!!!! All of these times he was left with Don, never anyone else and always for a really good reason like my dentist trip this week.
Leaving my nursing baby means a bit of thought and preparation. For starters I have to pump enough milk for the amount of time I will be away OR thaw out some from the freezer stash. I’m not a huge fan of pumping after the pump-n-dump episode. I have no reason to pump other than to add to my freezer or let him practice drinking from his sippy cup.
Don and I have NEVER been on a date without our son! <— This seems to be really important to a lot of the new moms in our breastfeeding support group. If it’s important to you GO FOR IT, but it’s just not a priority in our lives right now. Maybe by the time he’s a year old I will have the courage to go out without my baby for more than an hour. I’ll let you all know when that day happens!
How did you feel about leaving your nursing baby behind the first time? Or the millionth?